How long have you been a celebrant for?
I have been a celebrant since 2004 – 20 exciting years now.
Why did you become a celebrant?
I was initially inspired by listening to an interview with Mary Hancock. I knew I could do a good job with my professional background. It is a way for me to give back to my community.
What involvement do you have or had with CANZ at a branch or national level?
I joined CANZ in the very early days and have been on the local committees in Christchurch and more recently in Nelson as chairperson for two years.
What ceremonies do you perform?
Many and varied with the majority being weddings and funerals. Also namings, renewal of vows and house blessings. Really any event or milestone that can be enhanced by a ceremony or ritual.
What do you enjoy about being a celebrant?
I really love the interaction with people at key milestones in their lives. I know I can enhance the day with individualised ceremonies and I like using the skills I have. I value the professional development and training I have been able to do.
What are some of the hardest parts of being a celebrant?
Sometimes it’s hard dealing with people who are in grief and taking funerals for family and friends. Each and every ceremony takes a lot of concentration and energy both before and during so self-care is crucial.
What was the most memorable ceremony you have performed?
A simple wedding for overseas visitors that was held in a remote spot in the Marlborough Sounds on a private beach. The guests were the B&B owners and another guest who was a great photographer. The groom’s brother arrived at the last minute as a surprise. The couple then said their vows to each other, in their own language which made it more romantic. The setting, the obvious love and joy of the couple and the cake and bubbly on the beach made for a stunning day.
What would be your typical day as celebrant?
A typical day could be like this one during the week. After feeding the chickens and checking on the new lambs at my home I have made contact with forthcoming wedding couples. I have sent ceremony outlines through and asked for feedback and for their individually written vows. I’ve then talked with a couple on the phone about the details of a registry ceremony for next week. I’ve been through some documents from recent professional development sessions and sorted and filed them away and I’ve found a few more poems to add to my resources.
What advice do you have for someone new to the industry?
I always advise people to embark on celebrant training and to join their local celebrant group. Having a mentor is another way to grow their experience. Take every opportunity for professional development to continue to develop and learn. Being a celebrant can be complex and challenging so good self-reflection and self-care is vital.
How do you like to relax?
I like to garden, walk, swim, ride my bike and read. Catching up and spending time with friends and whanau, especially my grandchildren, is the best. I live in an intentional community and I find the ready-made social connections great for my well being.
